The sad fact is many of us (adults) deal with life in very immature ways
This leaves young people without a pattern or role model of what it means to be real man or woman. Unfortunately that means they turn to popular cultures definition of what an adult looks like.
This lack of role models has really bothered me lately because it forces me to admit how many times I don’t act like an adult
Oh when things are going well I always act my age of course. But when facing a challenging situation my first response is to procrastinate.
How bad is my procrastination? Let me put it this way:
If procrastinating was a sport, I would be the undisputed World Champion, and wear a championship belt wherever I went.
When the job can’t be put off any longer I will get it done. However that attitude contradicts the challenge I’m giving students who procrastinate on their class assignments.
So before demanding young people become adults, we as adults need to own our immaturity
- Like when we choose our comfort zones instead of taking risks
- Viewing small setbacks as the biggest failure in history, and proof we will never succeed
- Refusing to admit we are wrong even when the mistake is obvious
- More interested in what we can get from others than working for it
- And doing lots of things in an average way instead of pursuing excellence 
Is it any wonder when we are acting like this that teens extend adolesence?
I’m not saying that every adult in the world has to be perfect because nobody is. Instead our ACTIONS should display maturity, even when we’ve made a mistake.
- By owning up to what we have done wrong (no excuses)
- Apologizing for the mistake, and making changes so it doesn’t happen again
- Accept any consequences that comes from those actions in a humble way
We must remember that teens hear people explain how an adult should act almost every day…but very rarely are they able to actually see one act that way.
- Just to be clear, I have seen all of these in my life many times ↩